| Love, money, laughter, accomplishment, & | | | | having a good time with friends and family, the |
| fame are what we typically think of when we | | | | time is based on lifting each other up. This type of |
| want something pleasurable in our lives. But do | | | | fun is at the expense of no one. Everyone can |
| they really bring us pleasure? Within all of them | | | | partake and everyone can enjoy. All parties |
| lies a way to find temporary or permanent | | | | involved walk away feeling good about the time |
| pleasure. With friends, family, commercial television | | | | they had and about themselves. It's not about |
| and movies all impressing upon you their views of | | | | alcohol, drugs or negativity. It's about |
| the life you should want for yourself, you have to | | | | light-heartedness, fond memories and imagination. |
| ask how do you really measure pleasure? | | | | This type of laughter is based in love. It is shared |
| How Do You Measure Pleasure In Love? | | | | consistently with quality friends and close family. |
| With love, many people measure pleasure through | | | | We lift ourselves up by lifting the spirits of |
| how much the other person does what they like, | | | | everyone we are with, and vise versa. It's |
| verses loving the core of who they are. When | | | | innocent, it's fun, and it's memories are ever |
| you love someone because of what they do, you | | | | lasting. |
| are really trading what they like you to do for | | | | How Do You Measure Pleasure Through |
| what you like them to do. So, when the person | | | | Accomplishment? |
| you love neatly fits into the role you outlined for | | | | With accomplishment, do you want to be the |
| them in your mind, you have feelings of love for | | | | best, or do you want to be the best you can be? |
| them. When they step out of that role because | | | | There is a difference between the two. When |
| they've changed, different life circumstances | | | | you want to be the best, you have to compare |
| occur or they've decided not fulfill that role | | | | yourself to others and judge how one is better or |
| anymore, we suddenly "fall out of love". This is | | | | worse than the other. Your focus is more on |
| conditional love. | | | | assessing what others do better than you so you |
| When you love a person for who they are as an | | | | can figure out how to win. When you win, they |
| individual, you are on the road to loving | | | | lose. Winning is of the highest value when being |
| unconditionally. Love is not based on what they | | | | the best is the drive behind accomplishment. |
| do. Your love for them is always present because | | | | When someone else comes along that is better, |
| of who they are. You see the things that they do | | | | you feel defeated, even if you've accomplished a |
| as expressions of who they are and not as their | | | | great deal. Everything you do is compared to |
| identity. Love like this lasts a lifetime and can | | | | someone else, and your ranking against them |
| endure the toughest storms of a relationship. And | | | | gives you your value. |
| when two people love each other in this way, | | | | When you measure pleasure by always seeking |
| they want to do things that the person they love | | | | to be the best you can be, you never stop |
| would enjoy, because nothing gives them more | | | | learning. It's not about how good you are |
| pleasure than to see the one they love genuinely | | | | compared to someone else, but how much |
| happy. Unconditional love can create levels of | | | | you've grown within yourself compared to |
| intimacy that blow away anything in the movies | | | | yesterday, last month or last year. Your focus is |
| or in romance novels. The difference is that it is | | | | on assessing your own pool of skills and talents, |
| only possible when you choose to measure | | | | improving the ones that require development, and |
| pleasure in love through giving of yourself freely | | | | continuing to grow those that are highly tuned. |
| to the one you love. | | | | When someone else comes along that is better, |
| How Do You Measure Pleasure With Money? | | | | you watch and learn from them. Rather than |
| With money, many people want to find ways to | | | | competing, you ask questions. And if you find |
| show off their value, instead of doing things of | | | | yourself the best at what you do through this |
| value. When people want to show value, they are | | | | process, you choose to help others to develop |
| demonstrating the quality or the quantity of the | | | | and become the best they can be as well. One of |
| stuff they have. They want to drive the most | | | | the greatest pleasures in life is teaching or |
| expensive luxury cars, wear the expensive name | | | | coaching someone that goes on to surpass your |
| brand clothes, and wear jewelry that could be the | | | | skill level! For the person that strives to be the |
| down payment on a house. But why? After you | | | | best they can be, it's a dream come true to help |
| get the thing you thought showed your value, | | | | another be the best they can be. |
| over time it becomes ordinary. If you bought it to | | | | How Do You Measure Pleasure Through Fame? |
| show off to friends, and then another friend gets | | | | With fame, is the number of people that know |
| something even more valuable, how do you feel | | | | you important, or is it the number of people you |
| about what you bought? When you use your | | | | inspire? When you derive a sense of worth |
| money to compare and compete with others, | | | | through how many people know you, think highly |
| there will always be someone that out shines you. | | | | of you or think you are cool, you are putting the |
| Therefore, you can never be truly happy with | | | | foundation of your self esteem in other people's |
| what you have, and that happiness is always | | | | hands. Your reputation lives in other people's |
| temporary. You always need more and better | | | | minds. If they choose to see you differently and |
| quality stuff to keep up with the value you want | | | | you are no longer popular, you no longer hold that |
| others to think of you as having. | | | | cool job title, or you otherwise lose the things |
| When people want to do things of value, they | | | | that others valued you for, then your self-esteem |
| think bigger than just themselves. They might | | | | takes a beating. If you thought you were great |
| choose to invest in an idea that they love, and by | | | | when others thought you were great, how will |
| doing so create jobs and spend every day doing | | | | you see yourself when others no longer see you |
| something they truly enjoy. They may look to | | | | as great? |
| help those that need it most through donations, | | | | When you measure pleasure by being an inspiring, |
| contributing to non-profit organizations, and | | | | it's more about doing the thing that you have a |
| starting community groups. They may save their | | | | passion for than about other people's thoughts |
| money to put their children through college, or to | | | | about you. When you dedicate yourself to a |
| save for a comfortable retirement. Rather than | | | | purpose you have a passion for, you can't help |
| seeking to compare their perceived value with | | | | but to inspire those around you. Without focusing |
| others, they seek to invest in ideas, helping people | | | | on it at all, other people look towards you as an |
| and worthy causes, or to find true enjoyment in | | | | example for themselves to follow. Your attention |
| working now so they don't have to work later. | | | | to your passion helps them find and focus on their |
| Knowing that you've invested your money into | | | | passion. It is not about being famous for fame's |
| ideas, people and in the future makes the thing | | | | sake to feed an ego. It's about doing the thing |
| you contributed to more valuable than the money | | | | you love to do most in the world with all of the |
| itself can ever be. | | | | love, dedication and sincerity you can muster. |
| How Do You Measure Pleasure With Laughter? | | | | Those who inspire tend to shy away from fame |
| With laughter, many people think it's fun to laugh | | | | and the belief that they are somehow better than |
| at other people and their problems, verses just | | | | others. If fame finds these individuals, it does so |
| having a great time with friends and family. | | | | all on its own. |
| Sarcasm, laughing at someone else's misfortune, | | | | Measuring pleasure comes down to fear and love. |
| spreading rumors and feeling good because | | | | When you measure pleasure through fear, you |
| someone else failed are all based in negativity. If | | | | must compare to and tear down others in order |
| these things happened to you, there is a good | | | | to feel good yourself. Fear robs you of self |
| chance that you wouldn't find humor in them. It's | | | | -esteem and allows you to give the power of |
| because we view others as separate from | | | | yourself over to others. When you measure |
| ourselves that we feel better when they do | | | | pleasure through love, you build people up while |
| poorly; in that moment we feel like we are better | | | | building up yourself. You fortify your self-esteem, |
| off than they are. In truth, putting down other | | | | making bulletproof, and inspire others because of |
| people for any reason is squarely based in | | | | it. You aspire to ever increasing heights within |
| insecurity. We lift ourselves up by pushing others | | | | yourself and have the courage to love |
| down when we engage in this type of "fun". | | | | unconditionally. |
| When you measure pleasure with laughter by | | | | |