| Break up with your partner and you'll feel like | | | | open emotional or physical doors. Keep them |
| you're dying alone. This is the initial stage of a | | | | closed! It is important that your relationship |
| break up and few handle it well. After all, a large | | | | partner has the opportunity to live with the |
| portion of your waking life has been poured into | | | | consequences of the break up...alone. What this |
| this lifestyle. And now it has suddenly come to an | | | | means is you must project an image of strength |
| end. | | | | both emotionally and physically. Act as if you are |
| You are not alone because everyday throughout | | | | totally over your break up. |
| this madcap whirling world of ours, hundreds of | | | | 3. Hang out with your cousins, your friends and |
| relationships are at a break up point. It feels like | | | | your coworkers. Get out and have some fun. |
| the end of the world for each of the partners | | | | Make sure you're visible rather than locked in your |
| caught up in the emotional spiral that happens | | | | apartment reading Tolstoy and listening to Sade. |
| when a partner becomes an ex. | | | | "Absence makes the heart grow crazy" or |
| The first thing most of us do is try to find out | | | | something like that. The "I can do just fine on my |
| what caused the relationship to break up. We | | | | own" attitude is the key to your success at |
| think that things like always using the last sheet | | | | getting your ex back. |
| of toilet paper and never changing the face | | | | Whether or not you're actually dating someone in |
| towels and snoring like a freight train every night | | | | the days following your break up, consider it as |
| just had to play a role in the break up. That's | | | | your winning strategy. Whether it's a distant |
| definitely what made him/her leave...right? | | | | cousin or the office nerd, get out on a date and |
| Next comes the moment of truth which follows | | | | have some fun. Your ex needs to see you |
| the silence after the tears have dried. Was any of | | | | happy...at least on the outside. |
| this the cause? Was it you? Was it Her/Him? At | | | | The important thing is to play the game and |
| this point it seems to help if you know why the | | | | make it look real, however, keep your dating |
| break up happened if you are to ever get your | | | | activities above the covers! Remember your goal |
| ex back into your arms and into your life. | | | | is to get your ex back as quickly as possible. |
| Let's get right to solving the problem and getting | | | | Appearing to move on with your life is a |
| your ex back into your relationship. Take a | | | | powerfully effective strategy...as long as you don't |
| serious look at these 4 strategies to get your ex | | | | cross the line. The bottom like for this strategy is |
| back, possibly within the next 2 weeks. | | | | that you are to do your best to be aloof and |
| 1. Stop fighting everything you've been battling | | | | fancy free. Not a clingy weepy cringing wallflower |
| with up to now. Your thoughts about his/her | | | | but out and about and living your life...without him |
| habits, no matter how annoying they seem, just | | | | her. You are your own person and this is the |
| let it go. For now you've got other things to think | | | | prime time to send that message LOUD & |
| about. Almost immediately after your break up | | | | Clear. |
| your mind and body are reeling like you're in the | | | | 4. Make sure you use this time to power up! Go |
| Indy 500 holding the lead position. Your hormones | | | | to the gym or join a Tai Chi class or learn scuba |
| and temperament are raging. It's time for you to | | | | diving or rock climbing. Just make a dramatic |
| consider not taking everything so seriously. There | | | | change, just for yourself. The main idea here is |
| are always options to consider, whether or not | | | | that you are an independent individual and have a |
| you feel like being objective. Now is your time to | | | | life of your own, without having to be hooked to |
| sit back and relax and get in stride with what is | | | | a partner to enjoy a sense of being an adult. You |
| really happening. It's time to learn how to chill to | | | | are a powerful person and are building even more |
| the max. | | | | strength into your character. |
| 2. The most unusual idea you you'll probably get | | | | 5. BONUS Strategy: Do what you do with focused |
| during this period is that your ex is warming up to | | | | attention on making yourself over. You've |
| you and thinking about what he/she has done. | | | | probably let dust and moss grow over the person |
| And, it's not unusual for this to occur in the first 3 | | | | you were at the beginning of your relationship. |
| or 4 days. Be cool, and in fact, you'll want to be | | | | Now is the time to let that person wake up and |
| down right chilly. Do not let your guard down and | | | | continue growing. It is resurrection time. |