| It may seem that you turn yourself inside out to | | | | declared that he is not at all interested in getting |
| please the other person. Frustrated that it never | | | | married. |
| seems to work out? Before you make a date | | | | When a man makes a strong statement about |
| with a guy take the time to understand yourself. | | | | himself, he should be believed. He means every |
| Even though you may be aware of what | | | | syllable of it. |
| outcome you are seeking it is easy to lose focus. | | | | If you are focussed on a particular relationship |
| To get to where you want to be requires focus. | | | | outcome it can be a waste of time dating a |
| If you allow yourself to get caught up in the 'I will | | | | person with completely different preferences. The |
| try anything approach'. This path meanders all | | | | best that is likely to come of this situation is if he |
| over the place. The target destination is unlikely to | | | | has a mate he can introduce you to who shares |
| be arrived at this way. | | | | your preferences. |
| Clarify the details | | | | Value who you are. Each person is a unique |
| If you are looking for a life partner, or if being | | | | individual. When you are considering if the guy you |
| married and having children is important to you. | | | | are dating is compatible with you as a life partner. |
| Be true to yourself. Hold steady to your view of | | | | Ask yourself these questions and be honest with |
| the future. Be honest with yourself and enjoy the | | | | your answers. |
| benefits. Clarifying this important aspect of self, | | | | Do the two of you enjoy each others company |
| helps to eliminate any prospective partners that | | | | in a natural and relaxed manner? Or do find |
| do not share your values. | | | | yourself putting on an artificial manner to be what |
| Accept reality | | | | you think he prefers? |
| The man in this scenario led a well ordered life. He | | | | Trying to be something that does not come |
| was seeking a companion not a life partner. He did | | | | naturally to you is difficult to sustain. Even if he fell |
| not want another version of himself. This guy | | | | in love with you while you were behaving in a |
| knew what he wanted and was getting on with | | | | manner contrary to your natural self. The man |
| his life. If a companion comes along to enjoy and | | | | would not be in love with the real you. It would be |
| share his passion, that would be great. If not he is | | | | an illusion for each of you. |
| getting on with enjoying his interests. This guy | | | | Honour the journey by being true to yourself, and |
| would make a good friend but has openly | | | | by treating others with respect and dignity. |