Self Improvement Myth - Bloom Where You Are Planted

Well, you're doing the best you can with what's- Are you even planted in the right spot? Is there
going on...it could be worse...sometimes you havepotential for growth in the soil where you are or
to take those lemons and make lemonade...youare you just getting soiled on? If yes, the soil is
just need to bloom where you are planted. We'vefertile, then move onto the next step. If not,
all heard these old adages from time to time butthink about transplanting to a new place.
if you're hearing so often (especially saying it to- So you have the soil mix, now you need the
yourself) that it has turned into a mantra for you;water. This is the nourishment you receive from
you have bought into a lie that will keep youdoing your job. Sometimes we have to fine tune
stuck in life.this area; not enough water and we whither, too
Seven years ago I bought a plant called amuch and we rot. What part(s) of your job bring
Butterfly Bush. I had the perfect spot; good soil,you the most satisfaction and how can you
proper drainage and it would receive the sunshinecapitalize on that. Keep in mind that some of us
it needed. Problem was that a few weeks after Ineed more emotional nourishment than
placed it in its new home, the tree next to itothers...The Desert Cactus blooms with minimal
exploded with growth. I figured, wait and seewater where the Water Lily lives in it. Keep in
what will happen. Well, for 6 years I waited whilemind your needs, not those of your friends/family
my plant survived, showing green leaves everyco-workers. You may be a Passion Flower and
spring but nothing more. No buds, no flowers, nothey're Ragweed, to each their own (although
butterflies. My plant was missing a component itsometimes the idea of using weed killer is soooo
had to have in order to bloom; sunshine. Noappealing). Once you've accomplished this move
amount of me telling it; come on, we can makeonto the next step.
the best of a bad situation, hey it could always be- How much sunshine do you need to bloom? I
worse, let's do a few flower mantras and positivehave Hosta in my yard that actually does great in
affirmations together...nope, none of that wasthe shade. Their long green stalks with tiny bell like
going to change its plant DNA. No sun, no flowers.blooms line the front of my house. That is not
Last year I finally did something about thewhat was needed for the butterfly bush, though.
situation. I transplanted my Butterfly Bush to theFull sun for a good part of the day was required
back yard where it would get full sun for most offor it to prosper. What type of recognition (sun)
the day. And behold; it has bloomed. I've done thisdo you need and how much? Can you bloom if
before in my life; staying at a job, in a relationship,you are in the background or do you need full sun
with a financial problem, thinking that someday,or a combination? How can you position yourself
something would change. I figured it was me, Ito get what you need?
wasn't doing what I could for things to be betterWe all have times when we have to make the
and if I just tried harder, I would get it.best of a challenging situation. And there is one
Sometimes that might be the case, especially ifitem I've not covered; manure (one man's B.S. is
you find yourself changing careers, relationships,another's fertilizer but that's for another time). My
etc and still having the same challenges, yeah it'squestion; are you making those challenging times a
probably you. But, just like our bloomin' buddies,habit? Because if you are, once that situation is
we have to have the right mix of soil, water andresolved you will create another challenge to take
light to move from surviving to thriving.its place.
Some things to consider;So, are you thriving or just surviving?