The Intimacy of Being Seen

What allows us to remove our masks? Whathis or her support team; comment on the path
feeling, movement, supportive touch or perfecteach had taken to arrive at the graduation
word makes space for a person to be seen?podium and state intentions for the future. The
These are not new questions. In fact, they areyoung lady who had presented the Tai Chi
ageless. Philosophers from the history of timeprogram honored her Afro-American bloodline,
have asked these same queries in a variety ofone line of heritage at a time, and closed by
ways.raising her arms to heaven and singing the names
In January, I was privileged to attend my olderof God in twenty different languages. My
daughter's graduation ceremony at Goddarddaughter honored all of us who had supported her
College in Plainfield, VT. Goddard describes itself as13 year endeavor to become a teacher and
"at the heart of your mind". Its missionfinished by requesting that her husband join her
statement, in part, states, "Our mission is toon stage to receive her Bachelor's Degree since
advance the theory and practice of learning byhe, too, had earned it. He had maintained the
undertaking new experiments . . . .Goddardhouse for her while working a full time job so that
encourages students to become creative,she could work during the day and study every
passionate, lifelong learners".night. And so it went.
As mission statements go, it could be consideredSo, where do people put their masks during those
almost typical. Typical, that is, until you arrive ontear-filled moments when the soul in each person
campus. Your first taste is a sense of anpresent is touched so deeply? Behind that mask is
atmosphere that reminds you of a young colteach parent's lost dream that he or she sees
straining against a bridle, autumn leaves blowing insupported by a school peopled with advisory
the wind while the peace and serenity of samadhipersonnel who encourage the deepest searching
overtakes your mind. It is amorphous, waiting tointo each student's depths. In each graduate's
be discovered, hoping you will remove your maskheart is the hope of the future and a conviction
and glimpse its identity. With your mask on, itfueled by the constant, daily reminder that he or
becomes invisible.she has been heard; has been given the
The graduation ceremony was preceded byopportunity to find his voice, her deepest
presentation of the graduates' theses. I attendedcommitment to life.
my daughter's, of course, and together weComing away from this profound ritual, I realized
attended another in which a young ladythat what I had witnessed is the same essence
demonstrated a Tai Chi, Chi Kung program thatthat propels and feeds me in my daily work. It is
she had created to enable physically challengedthe essence of my soul as it was the essence of
people to learn movement. She had found herthe soul of that graduating class. It is the
passion and created a path to channel its results.commitment that each of us made when we
My daughter's thesis told of her student teachingbegan life on planet Earth - to give all that we
experience in which she recreated a portion ofhave from our incomprehensible depths without
the already existing class structure to allow timemasking it with a civilized veneer; to surrender to
for one-on-one interaction with each pupil. Theour calling so that the piece we give to mankind is
new model has been retained by the classroom'sunmistakable; to find no compromise to our
existing teacher.integrity in daily life.
Nothing could have prepared me for the sheerAs closure, I will use the final words of one
raw emotion of the graduation ceremony - one ingraduating student, "I honor each person who has
which every student, advisor and parent would belooked into my eyes and seen my soul". Maskless.
maskless. Each graduate was given time to honor